This lecture explores the concept of emotional intelligence from a religious and biological perspective, explaining how humans handle daily pressure and stress. It discusses the roles of the nervous system, hormones, and the spirit in shaping human emotions and intellectual growth. The speaker compares modern coping mechanisms, such as music and media, with Islamic practices like prayer, ablution (wudoo), and prostration (sujud) for stress relief. Additionally, the lecture touches on the significance of consuming halal food and how spiritual purity impacts the heart and overall well-being.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم وصلى الله على سيدنا محمد وعلى آله بيته الطيبين الطاهرين. اللهم صل على محمد وآل محمد. Today our lecture is going to be about emotional intelligence and religion. How can we purify ourselves, dealing with our emotions toward God? In our normal life, we see and we face many struggles. Like you wake up in the morning early, you have to go do salatul Fajr. Salatul Fajr is very heavy, and for someone to get used to it.
Why? It is emotionally, you have to prepare yourself for it. You have a long day ahead of you, dealing with your kids, dealing with your brothers, you have to go work, or you have to go to college. It's very hard, and it's emotionally intense. During all this day, there's many things inside our body will change. And this change it might affect us in a positive way or a negative way, in many forms. Our body, Allah he creates it in very, very beautiful way, in a way that he can take pressure.
Allah does not send more pressure a person he cannot handle. He cannot handle. That's why men these days, many many people who commit suicide, or who feel that committing suicide, or feel that it's so much pressuring they live in their life, they think there are they are the only people who are under this are this pressure. In reality, every single person, Allah he send different pressure because Allah does not send more for a person than what he can handle.
And and he mentioned this in the Quran. So let's study more, what is emotional intelligence? Emotion, we can divide this word into two groups. Emotion and intelligence. They when we relate it together, we will have emotional intelligence. Now, let's say, if someone, basic question, it will say, can emotion have intelligence? Yes, as we are as a human being, we are very intelligent humans, that we always, always, always struggle to find the truth.
And this truth sometimes can cost our life, sometimes can cost our money, sometimes will cost that we lose many friendship, we gain new friendship toward this the road that we choose. Emotion by themselves we can be break by science or by philosophy. Let's go take the science the science side. Science, inside our body, for emotions can effected by hormones. Hormones, let's say, a God created something in my brain that we call it loop, nervous loops, that I'll be able to love someone.
If I keep thinking about this someone is so good for me, this someone I make me feel happy, this someone make me feel so good about myself. Let's say when two people meet, the first thing they start talking about is how your eyes are beautiful, and then later on, how you are so good when I talk to you, I feel so myself. And later on, the nerve the nervous system inside your brain will start making this loop. Like when you think about this person, immediately the loop will go toward the hormones, the hormones that are on there's a gland under your brain, small gland under the brain directly.
When you when you feel yourself, or when you your brain think that you are feeling good, it will it will send an order to this gland, and this gland it will dispense a small amount of this hormone to through your blood, that will make you feel so good about yourself. So, this is the emotional side. Emotional side deal by nerve nervous system, deal by hormones, and deal by many aspects that Allah created biologically inside your body.
If we take the other side is spiritual, which normal science now does not believe on. But we can say we have many proofs that we can prove to the science to the science people, people who love science, we love science, too. But those people who are atheist, usually they attached attached science of you being atheist. But in reality, the more scientific you become, the more you believe in God, and we will prove this by our more in our lectures.
We will show the sign the scientific people that science is attached more to legit religion than to atheism. Why? Because science with religion makes sense. Science with atheism make idiots. In reality, this is real. Okay, so now let's talk about spirit. When I go inside, immediately, I see someone that I that I I have no interface with. I I don't talk too much. about I feel good about. In reality, science does not explain why this is happening.
They say maybe his looks, look, in his looks, he look like someone you know before. And and since you already know that this pattern will followed other pattern. But in real reality, they made many research that you can go let's say to Russia, which is a person who you never seen before, let's say in our people, they look dark hair, regular eyes. You go to different country, they have a different hair, different eyes type of view.
And when you see or you meet that person, you'll feel so comfortable with. He doesn't even have to say anything, but when you look at their face, you feel so comfortable. So why this is happening? Okay, we can study this from the many aspects, one of them is energy. And we we said before energy comes does not come from your cells. Even cells have a small parts called mitochondrian. Mitochondrian is where sugar transferred, or many things transferred.
They give this type of energy like electric voltage that you can function. But electric voltage cannot produce high electromagnetic field that can affect different people. So, your body has to have something else. A main source of energy that when you see someone you feel very comfortable with. So, this generation generator is the spirit. Basically the spirit. We have inshallah in the future we will talk more about the spirit because the spirit is not inside the human body.
And we can prove this in the future. We will make a special lecture for the spirit so people can understand what is it exactly. And we can stop this confusion. There is too much confusion between the self, the the eye who I am, the brain, and the the the spirit. In the future inshallah we'll talk more about the spirit. Now, let's say the spirit is this main source, electric source, that is projected to yourself, and yourself is you're making you're resonating, we can say,
you're resonating from this force for other to see you by. Let's say, for example, when you see someone, you're feel so comfortable about. This is him resonating with his energy source for you to feel him, to make to have these feelings. What kind of feelings he projected, he's projecting. So, this is the first aspect of emotions. Emotions come from two those two sides. And we said biologically and by energy, which is projected directly by the spirit.
This emotion with no intelligence will not make a human being. Why? Because you can have a beautiful flower or beautiful tree in your side your house, like we have here. Very beautiful, but it does not have a spirit. But you everyone when we sees it, you can like it. He says so beautiful. Why? Because it followed the pattern of beauty. The beauty have special pattern pattern. If you follow this pattern, anyone can follow this pattern, it will be so beautiful.
Same thing like what Da Vinci did inside his paintings, his paintings. If we look at his paintings, it looks so creatively beautiful. Why? Because you follow specific type of geometry that made everything so perfect and that exactly like our human scales, our human our human pattern of beauty, what we call it. And what we call by different by the scientific name is the golden ratio. Equal 1.6, anything by by 1.6 golden ratio will have the specific type of beauty.
So, if we're going to follow this kind of pattern, it will be beautiful. But let's say we we are humans with no with in with intellect intellect. This intellect what make us, what make us live, what make us create, what make us even reflect to the creation. If we mix intellect, if you want me to let let me define what intellect before. Intellect or someone being smart is a is a process that will go all our life. It will never stop.
Why? Because it's a it's built over too much experiences, trial and error. You have to try, make mistakes, learn. Let's say try, you didn't make mistake, you learn from it. You don't have to make always mistake many mistakes. Our new generation, people like the the new generation, especially they always fall into this trap. They always say we're going to try ourselves for for us to see if this is will work for us or not, for us to decide.
So we always ask them, take this drugs and try it. They say, yeah, we will, we'll do it. But why you want to do it? Can you, can't you see there's many thousands or millions of people who would try this before and look what happened to that? Or, for example, gun, they're going to shoot, or whatever it is. What all the experience is based on what? In trial and error. But we, for us to to have this scientific evolution, why we we always have to try the same thing over and over and over?
And we always have to talk about the same stuff over and over and over. To say those things are very bad, and they're going to be bad, and they're always going to be bad. Never, they're never going to be good. And especially now, these days, they say, let's say, let me smoke a little bit of marijuana. Marijuana will not hurt me. There are many scientific research, they say marijuana will not hurt someone. But in reality, it does hurt you.
Why? Because you're away from your brain. Anytime you are away from your brain, you're going down. Allah Azzawajal, he does not want you to go away from your brain. The only part scientifically that always continuously working, even while you sleep, is your brain. Even when you're asleep, brain go down 40%, but 60% still working. And even there's high work area in different area during the day than at night. So the only part that never stop is your brain.
Why? Because he does not want you to make this stop. This tool is a huge tool that if you stop it, if you go away from it, you think you are solving some problems, but what's actually happening is you are losing yourself. You are selling yourself to bad ideas, let's say, in a regular sense, you're selling yourself to the devil. This is selling yourself when you start thinking like if you start smoking, if you start drinking alcohol, what you're doing?
You're going away, you're solving your problems. But in reality, problems still there. You're not thinking about them, but they're still there. You're making more problem, your brain is getting this tool, this huge tool is getting becoming more dumb and dumb by time. And look how many those people are surrounding us and they're growing more and more. This society now has become very dumb. And they're proud of it too.
Before, when you say to someone why you don't know this, he will say a bad education, you know, I tried, my life was hard, my life was harsh. But now, these days, you can just buy a laptop for $200, go to Google and start read. This is that if you don't have money, can't you afford to buy a small laptop? You can connect to the internet and start read. Before, they used to say we don't have libraries. Our education system is very bad.
Whatever the reason is, but these days there's no excuse anymore. Why? Because it's so easy to get knowledge, to adopt to this kind of knowledge. It's free for you too. It's very free. It's very easy now to get a laptop and an internet and start reading. You don't have to spend those $500 to buy Xbox, to continuously keep playing on it. You become even dumber than smoking marijuana. All actually are the same, is the same.
So intelligence is built in this kind of level. Level of experience, trial and error. And by this experience, by time we adopt something called wisdom. Inshallah, in the future we talk about more wisdom because many people wisdom, they think wisdom is a partial of philosophy. And some when you see someone who is wise, you think he's whatever you ask him to is just he's saying no, because philosophy say you have to always be scared.
You cannot do anything, just sit down home, you take your paycheck and you're so wise, you're sitting home, you're safe. This is not wisdom. Wisdom in reality is the highest type of science that in a future you know what is everything constructed of and you can use it for your own sake. Even let's say someone have cancer, you can cure this cancer immediately by water. This is the real wisdom that Luqman in the Quran, he had before, this type of wisdom.
Anyway, we continue. So, why I'm talking about this? What triggered me to talk about this? Emotion with intelligence make something very good. If you're emotionally right, emotionally you're dealing with your pressure daily, you're fine. With your intelligence, you have your way around from all the pressure you have all day long, you can manage. You're managing. But these days, things are becoming more stressful too.
Not just pressure, pressure and stress, many people think are synonyms, but in reality they're not. Pressure and stress. Stress is biologically and pressure is mentally. You have this mental that affecting your intelligence and you have this stress that's affecting your body. Both of these two aspects that we talked about are stress and pressure. And many people, they're trying to end that. They want this anymore. By what? Even by losing religion, they say, okay, if God loves me, why is he giving me that?
If he really loved me, he should, you know, I wake up in the morning, have $100 million check in my bank account and all my problem will be solved. Well, look around us. Let's look around us. Let's evaluate this thing. 6 months ago, I remember reading in a newspaper, a woman, she won $100,000. And this woman, she was a little famous, why? Because she kept taking the check from a Medicare, I think. They used to give her $500 a month because she was poor.
At the same time she won $100,000. So the government sued her later to get the money back. But what's interesting about why I still remember this, what's interesting, after 6 months, this woman died. And she was 29 years old. It's really fascinating. Why this woman died? Because she had overdose. She overdosed. So she kept all her life asking God to give her the money, to win the lottery. And when she won $100,000, after 6 months, she died.
Okay, was this woman dumb, stupid? No, she's not. If someone going to tell me, okay, if I get the $100,000, I'll keep them in account, I'll help the poor, I'm going to build the new hospital, everyone going to be for free. But in reality, when we have, let's say, I wake up tomorrow morning and I have $1,000 in my bank account, I will never call anybody. I'll just go to the best restaurant, I eat it and finish the $100,000 and then I'll make sure nobody knows about it.
This is the reality. So why this? Because we're always built for pressure. You wake up in the morning, you turn on, let's say, the radio. The radio they always give you this music. We think always music is it will take their stress away. But even in reality, even let's say, let's be honest with ourselves, even Islamic music, some people think it's right to listen to it. I'm not saying anything. It will block the idea, same thing like drugs.
Even some studies said music, whatever it is, music, classic music, hard rock music, whatever, even hard rock music has bad effect, more bad effect than anything. But they're more addictive than drugs. Someone can be addict to that more than someone addictive to that drug. So music here can have what? They block your ideas. Let's say I'm thinking tomorrow about this test. It's so bad, you know, I studied my best. Now I open the TV, there's MTV, there's a nice song that I like so much.
I start thinking, singing with it. Suddenly I feel, oh, my head is not heavy anymore. Why? Because the song has made me relax. But in reality, what happened? My brain, those roads are open, my brain, I keep thinking about the idea. They become stressed. When I'm thinking about something else, this music made me think about something else. So I'll be stressed reveal from this place to the different places, different nerves.
What happened in reality? Nothing. I just moved. I switched from place to place, but the problem is still there. I didn't really fix it. I didn't really feel better. In reality, I could just not think about the test, which is how we can do it by prayers. Usually, that's why we say when you go to prayer, the only thing what you think about is God. You're now praying to God, this is mean you are in your best, you're gaining energy, at the same time you're not thinking, you're not taking different road, you're not blocking the ideas.
All what you're doing is just you're revealing your stress. So you're taking the good energy at the same time revealing the stress. With music, what's happening is you're blocking from place, but you're stressing different places. Let's say how a person can be like this. I mean I'm making a mistake, someone can claim that. Let's let's go to love site, someone in love. Okay. If someone in love, when I see a woman, let's say a a beautiful woman, I'm talking to her.
If I don't I'm not guy I'm not a guy who listen to music, let's suppose that. I will think about this woman from from my brain and my heart at the same time. I'll say, does this woman fit that will be this woman good for me in the future? And then my brain will say yes because so and so and so. And my heart will say, yes, she's you know, she's nice. She's she's I'm I can fit her so and so. You know, there's many aspect into that.
Just from this site. Okay, let's say I'm a person who listen to music. When I'm going to think about this this woman, I will say, I remember a song that's that talk about eyes. Her eyes are beautiful, her so I'm going to start singing, and then I'm going to be missing very important point. Right. That me thinking about her what? Me thinking about her eyes. That's it, or maybe about her her hair. And yeah, my brain now it's trained to think about very stupid thing that they're not going to be anything in the future.
None of her hair, none of her eyes. So I'm missing very important point that they're going to become very stressful in the future because let's say this woman is a drama queen. You know, and I'm I I I I opened myself to not think about this things, because why I'm trained to always listen to music? What's going to happen? I'm going to be facing more trouble in the future. I'm just I'm just giving you one piece. we can talk about job, we can talk about let's say we we watch uh let's say like a someone being searching for a job and then suddenly found his job at Google.
This kind of move this movie, and then what in a movie it's so beautiful, the challenge is so nice, and then everything going to be fine at the end in the movie, but in reality it's not like this. So if we think about those things, they will affect the other things, reality and non reality. So this is the bad energy we take from music, we take from different from movies. Even though I'm not saying it's it's haram not to listen to them because some they say it's fine.
Some of them are classic, some of them they don't have they're just music, they don't have any lyric lyrics or anything. So I'm not saying anything, but I'm just talking in general. Now, after all this, we saying why what's affecting biologically? What's affecting us? Why some some become mean, some they don't become mean, even though emotionally we are built the same. Many people, they're going to laugh at that, but the way you eat, the food you eat, the money you take from your job, whatever you eat, it will affect you.
It will affect your heart. It will affect the heart, because I told you before, the spirit, we take the energy from spirit. Heart is like a mirror, it's reflected by all this energy by this those mirror, and then they go to your brain. This is how you get your idea. The more pure you are, the more purity you'll reflect, and this is will be reflected by your action, and it will be reflected by reaction, the people how they react with you.
So, we are, we live in the west, in in west. And before when we were our country in the east, in the east, let's say someone from whatever Middle East or Pakistan or Iran or we didn't pay attention too much for eating halal. Why? Because automatically there there are too many Muslims, it's halal anyway. It will be strange for you to to go, let's say from Middle East here, and then the first thing you ask for halal. Why? Because you're not trained this way.
It's it's normal for you to eat halal. And you never know that you should eat halal. But when we come here, many people they stress this idea. They say, okay, Allah in the Quran said "ولا تأكلوا ما لم يذكر اسم الله عليه". And you never eat something that God's name never mentioned on. But in the same ayah, those people who don't read, who don't who does not want to read, does not want to understand, does not want to comprehend, that there is a a big section before this ayah saying, you have to eat before as a taskia.
Taskia means you have to kill the animal right the right way. Even Islam paid attention to that area. Now, I I was watching a movie a couple days ago. This movie really stressed me. The way here in the west, they kill animals, is very stressful. I swear if you really watch this movie, the way they kill chicken, the way they make eggs, the way they kill cows, even the the pig, the way it's very stressful. Islam and they claim this country, they claim or all our country in the West, they claim they love animals so much.
That that even really it's crazy. But in reality, if you look how Islam ordered us to kill the animal, to make the Zabiha for you to eat halal, it is it will purify you. When they when they put the the animal in the floor, the animal immediately will have like a sort type of coma. This is subhan Allah, Allah built built this in the animal. We can try it. You can bring let's let's buy let's get a chicken, put her in her back, immediately you see the chicken giving you her neck.
Immediately. It will not fight you. And and you can leave her this way, take your hand out, it will stay like this four minutes. And then when she turn back, she will go back to like she never been there on the floor. She will never remember anything during the floor. Same thing any animal. Like the cow or the or anything. But if you kill other animal that Allah told you don't eat from, they will be always fighting with you.
Why? Because the Allah didn't permit you to eat from them. So, eating halal will will give this heart always be softened, will soften the heart. Now, we see let's see here in this country, let's tell them, five kids died in a in a in a in a bus. They will say, oh my God, I'm so sorry for that. And they stand like five minutes and after that they leave to their house like nothing happened. They have love, but their love is different than what the Muslims have as as for humanity.
Imam Ali said, if he's not your brother in religion, he's your brother in humanity. And nobody have this, even in United Nation, they taken this saying for Imam Ali as the best thing universally for dealing with each other. There's nothing called politics between human emotion, emotional or or stuff like this. So for us to always to relieve all this stress, inshallah in the future, we're going to talk more by science.
I'm now just in those lecture, I'm going to I'm just going to give lecture as a definitions. In a future, we're going to go very deep in science, how we can we relieve ourselves from that. Let's say, for you to always relieve yourself from stress, biologically, you have to do Wudu. It's very some people they say, what's the relationship between Wudu and and prayers? Wudu, Wudu mean, you know, when you put the water in your hands, Wudu is, let's say, all day long my body is collecting ions, negative ions.
When I put Wudu in my hands, all these ions will go away immediately from from my body. It's like dispensing all this bad energy from you and preparing yourself to go to Salah. So, let's say, you want to eat, why you don't do Wudu before? Even if it's not wajib, but why you don't do it? Everything going to go inside you, why you don't prepurify it? Food, If we said food have bad food, halal food, let's say the one is not.
Like it's not killed, right? Islamically. So it's going to make your heart harden, harden, right? So, why we don't use Wudoo to make our heart softer even if it's Lahmi Halal? You know what I mean? Because because now the the uh the meat can have bad energy. We have we we have Halal meat, it will have normal energy. Well, why we don't have Halal meat with Wudoo before? Why we're taking the bad energy from the body? We have nice nice food, nice meat, and then together mixed, we make you better person.
We'll have this better better better energy for you. Yeah, yeah. So we have for example the Wudoo, we have Sujud lillah Azza wajall. If you're so stressed, why you don't do Sujud? Many people now they go they go to yoga. They say yoga is the best thing. You know, they sit down for two hours, not thinking about anything, and then they feel they're so good. That by by the science of energy, it's right. Why? Because you're nothing about anything.
What's happening? You're not going into the same loops you used to go all day long. So when you go away from it, you feel you're so better. I would recommend this this this type of thing better than listening to music. I would recommend that because you're reflecting more. But in reality, yoga, you're not reflecting on anything. All what you're doing is not thinking about anything. In Salah, when you do Salah or Sujud, you're not still not thinking about anything.
But the way you are your your body is set, the way you when you go down is set, you are resetting all the energy. You're not just not thinking about anything, you are resetting the energy of the body. And the Sujud, if you want to reach this high spiritual world, do the Sujud. Don't think about anything at the beginning. Because you don't need to do anymore. When you do it when you do this, you will feel a lot of tired in your body at the beginning.
But later on you will still feel you start feeling more like more energy. Why? Because you are resetting your brain too. When you do yoga, you're sitting here like this. The the the blood is not flowing inside your inside your brain. But when you do the Sujud on the floor, there's more blood is flooding there. More blood and and yes, and you are resetting yourself to the floor. Why? Because you're having your hand, your arm, you the arm, the the legs, and your head all on the floor.
So you rest resetting your brain, your your body from seven different point to the to the ground. You're grounding yourself seven times. In yoga, you're grounding yourself only one from one place, because you're sitting in this way. So Islam still provided better solution for stress, from Wudoo and for because it I'm talking biologically and from the other side, because I'm talking by energy and physics. So regarding those two things, we perform purity, and purity can give us a better solution for emotional intelligence, this thing.
But in Sujud, I'm saying when you do Sujud, you will relieve all the stress. My main point here not getting oxygen more to the brain. I'm I'm saying resting the body. It will be more rested this way.